The Art of Reflection – How to Stop Living in Your Disappointments.

When you look back on your year are you hard on yourself? 

Most entrepreneurs are. 

Maybe it’s because when we do look back the parts that stay with us the longest are the disappointments we experienced. 

Why do we hang on to our disappointments? 

There is a lot of psychology behind all this and this post is not meant to be therapy, but in terms of your business it can be helpful to understand what’s happening. 

I do a design component at my events addressing this very thing where people look at their past year and, without fail, everyone forgets or downplays their victories. 

How do you get an accurate perspective on past accomplishments? 

To shed some light and appreciate what you’ve achieved during the year ask yourself the following questions.

During the year: 

1. What were your major victories in your business?

2. What were your major victories in your personal life?

3. What achievement are you most proud of?

4. What was the biggest risk you took?

5. What new skills, perspectives or insights did you gain that will positively affect your


6. What important life lesson(s) did you gain?

7. Did you have a major setback(s)?  If yes, how did you handle it and what was the final


8. What progress or ground did you take towards the future you are building?

What makes you happy about last year? 

Your responses can help you realize the full richness of your accomplishments and the lasting meaning that it has in your life – meaning that you may have been overlooking.

Are you goal damaged?

The bad news is we mostly don't achieve our goals which understandably upsets us.  What we don't understand is that our goals are in new areas where we haven't achieved before.  Sometime our goals have been in our lists for many years and we give up and refuse to set a good goal and go to work on it.  

Here is a short video clip from the Mid Year Design Program.

Mid-Year Design Day Jul 11 2010 from Eroca C. Lowe on Vimeo.


Not Making Your Goals? Time To Revise!

We set goals.  We go to work. And, we don't achieve them.  Why? 

First, life doesn't go the way we plan.  Secondly, there is new information coming in all the time that impacts your work and goals.  And, finally, you are in new territory so there is much you don't know about it.  If you make any progress, even a small amount it's of note and you should be happy.  

This is a short video explaining why we don't make our goals.