We’ve all heard the old adage, ‘Life is full of disappointments.’ But is there something we can do to minimize our disappointments?
But where do we start?
Disappointments and expectations are inevitably linked. And one thing I’ve learned about people’s expectations: they border on ridiculous. Not a judgment – just the way it is.
Most people don’t stand a chance of fulfilling their expectations. They usually reflect goals that neither they nor a team of people could fulfill – if there were 4 of them, living simultaneously they could almost get it all done.
Why do we do that?
People are setting dreams, not goals. And when those dreams are not met we feel disappointed.
We think expectations have something to do with reality. They don’t. Here’s a helpful formula:
Expectation = Fantasy.
That’s the bad news.
The good news is you can release past disappointments and let go of what’s holding you back.
Try answering the following questions.
Who do you need to forgive and for what?
Is there anything I need to forgive myself for?
Are you willing to forgive yourself? For not being the person you expected to be? For not achieving what you expected to achieve? For not doing all the things you wanted to do?
To whom do I need to give a second chance?
What heavy weight have I been carrying that I can now let go of?
It’s often a dance between your own expectations on the one hand and then forgiving yourself for not meeting your own expectations.
Without this piece of work you’re NOT FREE to create and design a new year. You’re creating a year with heavy baggage.