2 - You may have to forgive yourself

After looking closely at my progress or the lack of it, I often have to stop and forgive myself for falling short of my expectations.  It's best to write out the expectations.  Yes, I know this takes time, but I always find it's more than worth it.  I know you won't believe me.  You just have to try it.  Doing this year after year, I always discover that some expectations were realistic and some were not!  It never fails to be a useful endeavor.
Then, I breathe deeply, stand up and turn around 3 times, maybe go for a brisk walk and shake it off.  Now, I'm ready to move on.